Is Heaven Really So Close from Hell?

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​It’s always been so easy to blame people & events for the perceived ‘damage’ they’ve caused in our lives.  But, if we’re being honest & to be fair maybe it’s time we started blaming elegantly – meaning that if we are going to blame that person, that ‘X’, that event for all the hurt and bad they’ve caused, we must also blame them for all the joy, the excitement, the new perspective, and all the good they’ve caused in addition to the pain.  

Would you really be who you are today if they hadn’t been able part of your life at one point? Would you appreciate what you have at the level you do? Would you have those loved ones in your life? What have you learned from those experiences? How have they been great? Funny? Will they even matter 10 years from now?

BLAME ELEGANTLY for both the good and bad.  I challenge you to pick that person you’ve blamed for so long and look inside for all the good that’s come from that experience or time in your life. Make an appointment with them or just write a letter without expectation of a response or change in them and blame them for all the strength & good in your life because they were there at the exact time in your life when you needed it.  Thank them for the lessons you learned, the mistakes you’ll never have to make again, for the other people now in your life that you never would have had our met if not for that person.  

Look at exactly where you are now,  what you have, the new intelligence, the capacity for sympathy or love, the determination, the resourcefulness you’ve had to acquire to make it through that time.  

If you do that this week, I promise you can have a new year, a new life.  Your story will change and when your story changes from being a victim to being ‘guided’, when you acknowledge ‘Grace’ in your life, the fear and pain or suffering  has room to leave.

Then your own version of Heaven will be waiting for you right next door to the Hell you were living in due to the inaccurate blaming you previously what engaged in. 

I love you,  Thank you. 

Alex Beyer, Esq.

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com

How to Reach The ‘Next Level’ in 30 Minutes or Your Money Back.

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What if 30 minutes could change your destiny?

We all know Einstein said that, ‘We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used to when we created them.’  Maybe it goes on to imply that by by attempting to use the same thinking aka beliefs about how the world is, we are, the ‘system’ is, men are, women are… – we cannot to to a ‘different’ or the ‘next level’ for lack of a better term. Thus, to get to that other place where we want to really truly be, we cannot believe the same things or make the same actions and behaviors to get there.

The thinking that got you to where you are in life, relationship, career/mission, happiness/stress cannot get you to the next level or to a different way of being/having/thinking/feeling.

Do become a different person, you must give up the certainty in some or many of your current beliefs to make room  for new ones that are closer to that next level.  For example, the things you had to know and believe that got you to $100,000 will not get you $1,000,000.  And the thinking that got you to $1,000,000 will not get you to $100,000,000 or a billion.

Therefore, in order for your environment to change, you MUST make it a MUST to learn other people’s ideas, beliefs, psychology and thinking (not necessarily accept them, but rather understand them) and get new voices about beliefs that are different than yours to move to a different place from where you are.

Certainty is wonderful to give you power in making things happen and conquering fear, but it is also what can hold you back from the true potential and possibility that is awaiting you is you can find a way to expand your thoughts and understanding.  Sometimes asking yourself, ‘is that really true’ to the thought that is holding you back will let your mind answer itself in a way that gives you an opening for expansion.

The easiest way to to this is by committing to CANI (constant and neverending improvement) for at least 30 minutes a day.  Read or listen to or watch some kind of book, audio program or video that can offer new or different ways of thinking or strategies that have worked for other potential models that have achieved what you desire (this does not include magazines and newspapers – those are meant to get the scarce resource of your attention, not inform or lift you to new heights).

Demming, in many ways responsible for Japan’s economic turnaround after the war, coined the mindset of always looking to do and create the ‘Highest and Best’. With a focus on always finding an even better way, always testing, always learning to make it even better – quality instead of quantity, you CAN and WILL get to a better place in any and every area of your life.

To help with perspective:

Imagine you have 3 balls (mind out of the gutter please!) – a basketball, a soccer ball and a ping-pong ball.  Each one represents one area of where you spend the majority of your time and focus in either 1) Relationship, 2) Work, or 3) Self.  According to the SIZE of the ball, label each ball with one of  these 3 areas depending on where you spend the majority of your time /focus.

WHERE DO YOU SPEND THE MAJORITY OF YOUR TIME / FOCUS?  Is it at work? On yourself?  On your relationship?  Where do you spend the LEAST amount of time/focus?

Can you see or does it click or can you feel why you might be struggling in some area of your life?

If the ping-pong ball represents someone’s relationship, do you thing there might be some issues within that relationship? What if your partner’s relationship was a basketball while yours was a ping-pong ball?  If your basketball represents Relationship and the ping-pong ball is Work – would you expect that type of person is struggling financially?

So, how would you label your balls? Which is the basketball, soccer ball and ping-pong balls! And, maybe more important, where could you make a shift in those labels that could change EVERYTHING?

If your basketball is Self, and you changed it to Work – do you think your financial world might have the capability of becoming a new kind of awesome?  Or, if you made it Relationship, would you be able to completely convert that 1 or 2 Dimentional stagnant relationship with your lover and create a 3 Dimentional piece of artwork of passion, intimacy, euphoria and ecstasy in its place?  (1 Dimentional is when you come to Get not give, 2 Dimentional is where you make it 50-50, ‘you do your part, I’ll do mine’ generally with little passion, 3D is where their needs are your needs and it lights you up to light them up, where there’s intimate passion and fun, where you’re courageous enough to give 100% and bring that out in your partner as well).

Next time you play with a ball or play basketball, soccer, ping-pong or any other sport with a ball like tennis, bowling, cricket, baseball or whatever – maybe you will want to ask yourself, ‘in which area do I spend the majority of my time/focus? Which area do I spend the least? If I make a change immediately, how could this make everything better?

I know for me personally, these techniques have changed the course of my life and destiny immensely.  When I realized the time I was spending on relationships, my relationship went from pretty good to freakin’ awesome! When I spend the time expanding my mind and understanding, the world shifts to bring me closer to the path leading to my chosen destiny.

I wish you understanding and passion on your way to your destiny.

I love you,  I’m Sorry,  Please forgive me,  Thank you.

Alex Beyer, Esq.

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com

How to Never FAIL Again!

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The way to be perfect and never ‘fail’ is to give yourself permission to TEST every desired outcome.

Once you realize that there is always some kind of improvement that can be made, the goal then can become, ‘how can I make this even better?’ instead of ‘how can i make this perfect, so I don’t fail?’ (and thus never try because nobody wants to feel like a failure because that stops us from trying due to our greatest fear that we might not be enough and thus won’t be loved).

Testing means trying 2 different methods of getting a desired result, then measuring and comparing the results.  To do this we have to realize there is not only one way to get to an outcome you desire – there are a million plus ways!  So, you Test two of them, look at the effectiveness of each, notice how one action or method or strategy or training or sales letter or attempt to find/create a 3 Dimentional relationship (where, your partner’s needs ARE your needs, so your in the relationship to fulfill them rather than to take) or one way of feeling great in every moment of every day – then you compare the results of each and ask yourself, ‘which of these worked better at producing the result I want?’ Then you use the better strategy as the new stardard to test against.

You then merely test your current ‘best’ strategy against another wild  or seemingly crazy or logically sound method to see which of those two methods work better … and so on.

It’s a never ending cyle that gets you measured improved results, but that allows you to take action without being perfect because it’s just a Test, just a Try, just a Science Experiment that your sense of Identity is not tied to whether it works or not!

Plus it can be super fun and is a systematic way to constantly work on providing more value than anyone else – the key to becoming wealthy i  every area of your life.

I hope this technique, or better yet this way of thinking, can produce exponentially better and fulfilling results for you in the areas of your physical energy, emotional states (allowing you to be a testing scientist instead of needing to be a Perfectionist – which causes stress/fear because that’s an impossible and boring standard), your Relationships, making your Time more effective because you’re measuring results, in your Business and Marketing efforts, your Finances and investments as well as how you Reward and celebrate your victorious.  The possibilities are now unlimited and we can let Fear of Failure (the thing that’s stoops most people from ever taking action) go and we can be free.

I love you,  Thank you.

Alex Beyer, Esquire

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com

‘The world is our Playground,  Love is our Legacy.’

Don’t Be Emotionally Constipated!

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Don’t be Emotionally Constipated! All to often I see people who are trying to look or act ‘proper’, like how they think society says they should be… and in doing so they purposely try to stop feeling.  They don’t get too excited,  too happy, too angry and heaven forbid you’re a man and you cry! – instead they turn themselves into this ‘bleh’ of non- emotion.  Almost like a robot.

The quality of your life is the quality of your emotions. Let yourself feel. Let yourself jump for joy.  Let yourself have passion for your beliefs.  Let your love show on the outside too. Even when it’s the right time,  let your tears flow.   Be the real you.  Not the contrived one you’ve learned to put on a show with.

How? Practice. Do things a little out of your comfort zone. Be okay to be a little embarrassed. Realize that people’s opinions don’t matter enough for you to change the real you.

Can you remember a time when you were a fun crazy passionate person? That person is still in there. What’s the name of the Real You? Won’t you bring them out to play? How did you move then? What did you say to yourself? What was life about in that moment?

Alex Beyer

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com