It’s always been so easy to blame people & events for the perceived ‘damage’ they’ve caused in our lives. But, if we’re being honest & to be fair maybe it’s time we started blaming elegantly – meaning that if we are going to blame that person, that ‘X’, that event for all the hurt and bad they’ve caused, we must also blame them for all the joy, the excitement, the new perspective, and all the good they’ve caused in addition to the pain.
Would you really be who you are today if they hadn’t been able part of your life at one point? Would you appreciate what you have at the level you do? Would you have those loved ones in your life? What have you learned from those experiences? How have they been great? Funny? Will they even matter 10 years from now?
BLAME ELEGANTLY for both the good and bad. I challenge you to pick that person you’ve blamed for so long and look inside for all the good that’s come from that experience or time in your life. Make an appointment with them or just write a letter without expectation of a response or change in them and blame them for all the strength & good in your life because they were there at the exact time in your life when you needed it. Thank them for the lessons you learned, the mistakes you’ll never have to make again, for the other people now in your life that you never would have had our met if not for that person.
Look at exactly where you are now, what you have, the new intelligence, the capacity for sympathy or love, the determination, the resourcefulness you’ve had to acquire to make it through that time.
If you do that this week, I promise you can have a new year, a new life. Your story will change and when your story changes from being a victim to being ‘guided’, when you acknowledge ‘Grace’ in your life, the fear and pain or suffering has room to leave.
Then your own version of Heaven will be waiting for you right next door to the Hell you were living in due to the inaccurate blaming you previously what engaged in.
I love you, Thank you.
Alex Beyer, Esq.
Constant And Never-ending Improvement 