How to Reach The ‘Next Level’ in 30 Minutes or Your Money Back.

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What if 30 minutes could change your destiny?

We all know Einstein said that, ‘We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used to when we created them.’  Maybe it goes on to imply that by by attempting to use the same thinking aka beliefs about how the world is, we are, the ‘system’ is, men are, women are… – we cannot to to a ‘different’ or the ‘next level’ for lack of a better term. Thus, to get to that other place where we want to really truly be, we cannot believe the same things or make the same actions and behaviors to get there.

The thinking that got you to where you are in life, relationship, career/mission, happiness/stress cannot get you to the next level or to a different way of being/having/thinking/feeling.

Do become a different person, you must give up the certainty in some or many of your current beliefs to make room  for new ones that are closer to that next level.  For example, the things you had to know and believe that got you to $100,000 will not get you $1,000,000.  And the thinking that got you to $1,000,000 will not get you to $100,000,000 or a billion.

Therefore, in order for your environment to change, you MUST make it a MUST to learn other people’s ideas, beliefs, psychology and thinking (not necessarily accept them, but rather understand them) and get new voices about beliefs that are different than yours to move to a different place from where you are.

Certainty is wonderful to give you power in making things happen and conquering fear, but it is also what can hold you back from the true potential and possibility that is awaiting you is you can find a way to expand your thoughts and understanding.  Sometimes asking yourself, ‘is that really true’ to the thought that is holding you back will let your mind answer itself in a way that gives you an opening for expansion.

The easiest way to to this is by committing to CANI (constant and neverending improvement) for at least 30 minutes a day.  Read or listen to or watch some kind of book, audio program or video that can offer new or different ways of thinking or strategies that have worked for other potential models that have achieved what you desire (this does not include magazines and newspapers – those are meant to get the scarce resource of your attention, not inform or lift you to new heights).

Demming, in many ways responsible for Japan’s economic turnaround after the war, coined the mindset of always looking to do and create the ‘Highest and Best’. With a focus on always finding an even better way, always testing, always learning to make it even better – quality instead of quantity, you CAN and WILL get to a better place in any and every area of your life.

To help with perspective:

Imagine you have 3 balls (mind out of the gutter please!) – a basketball, a soccer ball and a ping-pong ball.  Each one represents one area of where you spend the majority of your time and focus in either 1) Relationship, 2) Work, or 3) Self.  According to the SIZE of the ball, label each ball with one of  these 3 areas depending on where you spend the majority of your time /focus.

WHERE DO YOU SPEND THE MAJORITY OF YOUR TIME / FOCUS?  Is it at work? On yourself?  On your relationship?  Where do you spend the LEAST amount of time/focus?

Can you see or does it click or can you feel why you might be struggling in some area of your life?

If the ping-pong ball represents someone’s relationship, do you thing there might be some issues within that relationship? What if your partner’s relationship was a basketball while yours was a ping-pong ball?  If your basketball represents Relationship and the ping-pong ball is Work – would you expect that type of person is struggling financially?

So, how would you label your balls? Which is the basketball, soccer ball and ping-pong balls! And, maybe more important, where could you make a shift in those labels that could change EVERYTHING?

If your basketball is Self, and you changed it to Work – do you think your financial world might have the capability of becoming a new kind of awesome?  Or, if you made it Relationship, would you be able to completely convert that 1 or 2 Dimentional stagnant relationship with your lover and create a 3 Dimentional piece of artwork of passion, intimacy, euphoria and ecstasy in its place?  (1 Dimentional is when you come to Get not give, 2 Dimentional is where you make it 50-50, ‘you do your part, I’ll do mine’ generally with little passion, 3D is where their needs are your needs and it lights you up to light them up, where there’s intimate passion and fun, where you’re courageous enough to give 100% and bring that out in your partner as well).

Next time you play with a ball or play basketball, soccer, ping-pong or any other sport with a ball like tennis, bowling, cricket, baseball or whatever – maybe you will want to ask yourself, ‘in which area do I spend the majority of my time/focus? Which area do I spend the least? If I make a change immediately, how could this make everything better?

I know for me personally, these techniques have changed the course of my life and destiny immensely.  When I realized the time I was spending on relationships, my relationship went from pretty good to freakin’ awesome! When I spend the time expanding my mind and understanding, the world shifts to bring me closer to the path leading to my chosen destiny.

I wish you understanding and passion on your way to your destiny.

I love you,  I’m Sorry,  Please forgive me,  Thank you.

Alex Beyer, Esq.

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com

How to Never FAIL Again!

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The way to be perfect and never ‘fail’ is to give yourself permission to TEST every desired outcome.

Once you realize that there is always some kind of improvement that can be made, the goal then can become, ‘how can I make this even better?’ instead of ‘how can i make this perfect, so I don’t fail?’ (and thus never try because nobody wants to feel like a failure because that stops us from trying due to our greatest fear that we might not be enough and thus won’t be loved).

Testing means trying 2 different methods of getting a desired result, then measuring and comparing the results.  To do this we have to realize there is not only one way to get to an outcome you desire – there are a million plus ways!  So, you Test two of them, look at the effectiveness of each, notice how one action or method or strategy or training or sales letter or attempt to find/create a 3 Dimentional relationship (where, your partner’s needs ARE your needs, so your in the relationship to fulfill them rather than to take) or one way of feeling great in every moment of every day – then you compare the results of each and ask yourself, ‘which of these worked better at producing the result I want?’ Then you use the better strategy as the new stardard to test against.

You then merely test your current ‘best’ strategy against another wild  or seemingly crazy or logically sound method to see which of those two methods work better … and so on.

It’s a never ending cyle that gets you measured improved results, but that allows you to take action without being perfect because it’s just a Test, just a Try, just a Science Experiment that your sense of Identity is not tied to whether it works or not!

Plus it can be super fun and is a systematic way to constantly work on providing more value than anyone else – the key to becoming wealthy i  every area of your life.

I hope this technique, or better yet this way of thinking, can produce exponentially better and fulfilling results for you in the areas of your physical energy, emotional states (allowing you to be a testing scientist instead of needing to be a Perfectionist – which causes stress/fear because that’s an impossible and boring standard), your Relationships, making your Time more effective because you’re measuring results, in your Business and Marketing efforts, your Finances and investments as well as how you Reward and celebrate your victorious.  The possibilities are now unlimited and we can let Fear of Failure (the thing that’s stoops most people from ever taking action) go and we can be free.

I love you,  Thank you.

Alex Beyer, Esquire

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com

‘The world is our Playground,  Love is our Legacy.’

Don’t Be Emotionally Constipated!

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Don’t be Emotionally Constipated! All to often I see people who are trying to look or act ‘proper’, like how they think society says they should be… and in doing so they purposely try to stop feeling.  They don’t get too excited,  too happy, too angry and heaven forbid you’re a man and you cry! – instead they turn themselves into this ‘bleh’ of non- emotion.  Almost like a robot.

The quality of your life is the quality of your emotions. Let yourself feel. Let yourself jump for joy.  Let yourself have passion for your beliefs.  Let your love show on the outside too. Even when it’s the right time,  let your tears flow.   Be the real you.  Not the contrived one you’ve learned to put on a show with.

How? Practice. Do things a little out of your comfort zone. Be okay to be a little embarrassed. Realize that people’s opinions don’t matter enough for you to change the real you.

Can you remember a time when you were a fun crazy passionate person? That person is still in there. What’s the name of the Real You? Won’t you bring them out to play? How did you move then? What did you say to yourself? What was life about in that moment?

Alex Beyer

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com

Is what you’re telling yourself really True? How the lies you’ve told yourself over your lifetime keep you from the wealth of life.

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Is what you’ve been telling yourself about life, about your family, about your enemy, about why you haven’t achieved what you really want yet really true?  Really?

Is it possible that you haven’t tried EVERY possible solution?  It it possible that you didn’t try every diet?  Is it possible that you haven’t read all the books on the subject to figure out a different way?  It it possible that you didn’t attend all of the seminars that might hold the key to unlocking your future?  Is it possible that if you REALLY wanted to you could spend more time with your loved ones and less time at work?

One of my favorite questions that I ask my lover and kids (which sometimes they don’t want to hear!) is, “If I put a gun to your head and said, I’m going to blow your brains out if you don’t find a way…, could you find one?”

I hear the excuses ALL THE FREAKIN’ TIME that “I can’t because… [name your story].”  Because “I’m too old,” “I’m too young”, “I’m to fat,” “I’m to thin,” “I don’t have the time,” “I don’t have the money,” “My partner/spouse won’t let me,” “You don’t know what they did to me!”  If there’s an opportunity, I love to ask them, “Is that really true.”  Unfortunately most of the time it doesn’t seem appropriate or some people may not be ready for a real discussion.

But, if you’re reading this, then you’re probably willing to ask yourself the question.

“Is it really true” what you’ve been telling yourself about why you haven’t taken action to bring you your destiny, starting today?  You may have had awful things happen to you.  I get it.  Those facts are true, but the story that you’ve been telling yourself about why that has stopped you from having/being/getting what you want, that’s the part that is NOT a fact and has become the fiction that you’ve hypnotized yourself into believing by telling it over and over and over again.  That story has gives you the excuse of why you have not achieved/done/become/experienced what you truly want.  The story gives us a ‘good reason’ why you haven’t had to face your real fear – that if you took action and didn’t achieve your results, people might not think you’re enough and if you’re not enough then you wouldn’t be loved.

Love (the desire of receiving) is the true need and desire that everyone has deep down.  Acceptance, appreciation, recognition and a belief that we’re enough is one of the primary drivers of the human psyche.  Why do bullies bully people?  Because they want significance as a poor replacement for love that they’re not getting elsewhere.  Why are people depressed (other than being selfish and thinking only of themselves and not others)?  Absent a physical bodily malfunction it’s because they want to feel loved and are able to at least get attention through the vehicle of depression.

Getting back to the Question to get past this belief, this story of why you can’t, why you haven’t, why it’s impossible, why you’re overweight, why you’re unhappy, why you’re suffering – ask yourself:

Q1: IS THIS REALLY TRUE?  Really?  Is there ANY other possibility however slight?

Then ask:

Q2: How would you feel if you never had this thought?  How excited, joyful and relieved would you feel if this belief or thought never existed in you?

If you never ever ever felt that “I’m not good enough,” “I’m this way because of him/her or that experience.”  If you never felt “I don’t have the time,” “I don’t have the money,” “I can’t make it work.”

How would that feel?

Then ask:

Q3: Why is that belief/thought or unempowering story complete and utter B.S.?  Why is it nothing more than something that belongs in the gutter with all the other trash we thow away?

Finally ask:

Q4: Why is the Opposite of what you used to believe the actual truth?

Why do you actually have enough money or resources or could find a way to make things happen?  How do you know there has to be a way to get your body fit and that somewhere there is a model to follow that is not out there just to rip you off?  How do you know that you are good enough as you are today without anybody else’s approval?  How do you know that you have the same time as everyone else in the world and could model someone to do the thing that you want if you were willing to do instead of talk?

Write down 3 reasons why you KNOW that the opposite of what you used to believe is true.

Do this now while you’re in state.  Don’t wait until later or tomorrow or after the meeting.  Do it now.  Ask yourself the question, take the time.

If that belief/story/thought/blame that you had really was Bull$#^@, and you just didn’t take the time to notice it – what could your life really be?  What could you feel, experience, do and accomplish?  How will you let your story’s next Act, Inning or 2nd half show?

Your time is now.  The best time to have begun was 10 years ago.  The 2nd best time is NOW, today, in the present moment.

God bless you.

Alex Beyer

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com

 

 

 

Are Your Beliefs Holding You Back Or Pushing You Forward?

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Your beliefs (ie- the things you are certain about/what you think is true) determine your Destiny (where you end up).

Beliefs determine your Potential. Potential is the Destiny you could create if you took action. Before you believe it’s possible, the Destiny would be in possible in your mind.

Potential determines the Actions you will take.

Actions produce the Results that are your Destiny.

Therefore what you currently believe is true is either holding you back or propelling you forward in a direction toward either what you want our what you don’t want.

Further, the Results you produce now or in the future, influence what you Believe to be true and the circle begins again.

To change your Destiny, change your Beliefs about what you think is true.

To do this, get new voices, new perspectives, new experiences outside your comfort zone. Read books, listen to opinions you don’t currently agree with, ask for others perspectives, try to understand objectively why someone does what they do instead of judging them.

Your Destiny is not set in stone as long as you become open to even more possibilities. Imagine what your life COULD be, because it can… But only if you believe so.

Alex Beyer

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com

No More Excuses. No More Self Pity. How can you get past your limiting Story?

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If you are feeling jaded, feeling worried, afraid, or feel deep down feel that your past or current situation leaves you at a disadvantage, and that is the reason you can’t create the life you really want, please listen to Nick Vujicic and maybe your limiting belief will change.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=meT-XgQix6w
Now, what was that you were complaining about again?  What was it that couldn’t be done?  Is it truly the real reason… or when you look in the mirror is it complete and utter bullshit?  Is it the story of the reason why you couldn’t or wouldn’t make the effort, create the time or go for it all the way?
When you’re 95 and sitting in your rocking chair – wouldn’t TESTING it and ‘failing’ (there are no failures if you Learn by the way – ask Edison) with the possibility of taking the Gold against all odds be a better story than, “I never tried because I didn’t think I was enough, and I didn’t want to look foolish to others and myself in case I went for it… and didn’t make it”?
When would now be the best time to look in the mirror again and say, “Yes, I was full of it.  I was afraid of looking foolish and potentially losing the respect and love I crave so much… but, what the hell.  I’m going to go for it anyway.”
The best time for Now was 10 years ago.  The second best time is this moment… Now.
So, what will you do?  A real decision is make when you schedule it.  Decide what to do and put it on your calendar right now.  Or don’t, your choice.

If Tomorrow wasn’t promised, what would you do Today?

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I often wake up in the morning with something on my mind.  Something to worry about – a project due, a proposal to prepare, a deadline, or wondering what the most effective thing to do today is.  At one point in my life I would wake up with a stomach ache thinking about all the things that need to be done and I would often skip everything and just jump on the computer.

However, I’ve picked up a few techniques to STOP THIS ROUTINE.

First the WHY, then the HOW.

WHY: Health, Well-being, being “In the Flow” in addition to being someone who your family, lover or clients want to be around.  When you’re busy thinking about your problems, needing money or the negative side of the coin, everything you do will be filtered by that thinking and will being even more of it into your day.

Have you ever jumped out of bed in a great mood, ready to go, excited for life?  Nothing could get you down at that time, could it. Things just seemed to go well.  Well, they do – when you’re focus is excitement, joy and happiness, everything that happens including the proverbial ‘spilled milk’ is filtered through those eyes and it’s okay.  On the other hand, when you’ve woken up on the wrong side of the bed, it doesn’t matter if it was Christmas – if that toothpaste cap was off the toothpaste you’d be ready to bite someones head off, not to mention destroying them for spilling that milk.

Is that the life you want to live?  Life is made up on the days and how we feel a majority of the time.  Every hour, minute, second or moment we spend in a negative state is one that is lost forever.

So, get out of that daily routine, consciously.

HOW: When you wake up in the morning, PRIME.  Prime for the day, just as you would prime a lawnmower.  For a lawnmower, before pulling the rope, there’s a little button you press that squirts some fuel into the engine that is used to start the whole system.  The same principle works for us, Prime yourself for the day.  Start with a little juice to put things into perspective before running to the e-mails, running to the paperwork or driving out to your meeting.  Out lives are where we Live – meaning what emotional state you constantly fall back to when you’re on autopilot.  If it’s one of stress, anxiety, fear or indifference – how would you like to turn that into excitement and passion?

Here’s a few ways you can prime: 1) Put a positive book in the bathroom that you can look at for a minute every morning that changes your focus.  I suggest “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, and it’s All Small Stuff” by Richard Carlson.  Amazing.  It’s a collection of very short ideas and thoughts that can break a negative routine in a few paragraphs.  2) Turn on YouTube.com (what!?).  Type in “Grateful: Love Song to the world” by Nimo Patel / Empty Hands Music.  Or, look at “Gratitude” by Louie Schwartzberg.  3) Close your eyes in a quiet area taking deep breaths, then think of all the things you are grateful for.  At least 3 things you are Grateful for – with one of them having to be miniscule like the breeze on a warm day or the morning dew on a leaf.  Then visualize 3 things you would love to go great today and see them in your mind’s eye going Perfectly, imagine the people laughing, the meeting going well, the client happy, your children or lover smiling.

By starting the day with a Focus on Gratitude or positive anticipation, you will Prime your mind to get started in creating those things in more abundance.

Don’t be afraid to shed a tear or two.  Emotions are the spice of our life, so let yourself feel the love, energy, gratitude and power that is out there.  There’s always the negative and pain to think about, but why not put that off for a few hours, a few days or even a lifetime.

Remember that TOMORROW IS NOT PROMISED.  We have only been given TODAY.  So, the question is… What Will you Do, Feel, Be, Love or Influence Today?

Life & Style Planning. What if taking a minute to pause and think could change everything?

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If you had the chance to live your life over, knowing what you know now, do you think you could have done a little more?  Been a little more?  Had a little more Passion and Joy?

Did we learn something in our Past that can help us do that somewhat in the Present?

When asked, “when is the best time to prepare for the future?”  The answer is often 10 years ago.  But, when asked, “when is the next best time?”  The answer is NOW.

I hope that somehow I can pass along a few life hacks, some big – some huge, before I or one of you get to ask that question again 10 years down the road.

I remember getting my first job at a little over minimum wage and thinking, “WOW, that’s a ton of money!”  Of course it was.  The most I had ever received, for the most part, were an occasional $20 from my parents for gas to bring my 5 siblings to school or when I sold candy at school in 7th and 8th grade (and paid for my brothers and sisters lunch money for two years).

When I did get that paycheck I remember turning to my Aunt, who worked with me at the time, and saying, “What should I do with this money?  Don’t people do things for retirement and protection and things like that?”  She looked at me with confidence and said, “Yeah, some people get life insurance or disability insurance or put it in the stock market.”

I had no idea what that meant or what any of those things were for.  I was in High School (go Fighting Zebras!), ended up graduating as Salutatorian (#2 – although I think I may have been able to pull off Valedictorian, #1, if I took some additional AP classes instead of taking College classes my Senior year – the difference between Salutatorian and Valedictorian is a ton of scholarship money, by the way), and after 11 to 12 years of public education I still had no clue about how the real world operated.

Graduating for me meant trying to get a job as some fast food joint or established business, like Rainbow Market (the local grocery store), since I obviously had no real world skills (who would have guessed after 12 years of education?).  I would then go do missionary work for two years and go to school for another 4-8 years to  learn some skill someone found valuable enough to pay me for.

Without going into too much more detail for now, I finally made a decision that I would find the fastest and quickest way to get by, to make a ton of money, to beat the system, pay as little as possible and leverage as much as I could to get the most from the simplest strategy, any life hack I could find.

Here I want to share things I’ve learned through my experiences that might make your life (and my life) a little (or allot) better, quicker and faster.  Some of the strategies I believe in so much I made them my craft and what I do for income.  Other strategies I just have a passion for because they are so life-changing, so I want to pass them on in hopes they make your own existence a ton more fun, enjoyable, exciting, fulfilling and joyous.

So here’s to learning from our Past, living in the Present and preparing for the Future.  Life & Style Planning.