How to Reach The ‘Next Level’ in 30 Minutes or Your Money Back.

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What if 30 minutes could change your destiny?

We all know Einstein said that, ‘We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used to when we created them.’  Maybe it goes on to imply that by by attempting to use the same thinking aka beliefs about how the world is, we are, the ‘system’ is, men are, women are… – we cannot to to a ‘different’ or the ‘next level’ for lack of a better term. Thus, to get to that other place where we want to really truly be, we cannot believe the same things or make the same actions and behaviors to get there.

The thinking that got you to where you are in life, relationship, career/mission, happiness/stress cannot get you to the next level or to a different way of being/having/thinking/feeling.

Do become a different person, you must give up the certainty in some or many of your current beliefs to make room  for new ones that are closer to that next level.  For example, the things you had to know and believe that got you to $100,000 will not get you $1,000,000.  And the thinking that got you to $1,000,000 will not get you to $100,000,000 or a billion.

Therefore, in order for your environment to change, you MUST make it a MUST to learn other people’s ideas, beliefs, psychology and thinking (not necessarily accept them, but rather understand them) and get new voices about beliefs that are different than yours to move to a different place from where you are.

Certainty is wonderful to give you power in making things happen and conquering fear, but it is also what can hold you back from the true potential and possibility that is awaiting you is you can find a way to expand your thoughts and understanding.  Sometimes asking yourself, ‘is that really true’ to the thought that is holding you back will let your mind answer itself in a way that gives you an opening for expansion.

The easiest way to to this is by committing to CANI (constant and neverending improvement) for at least 30 minutes a day.  Read or listen to or watch some kind of book, audio program or video that can offer new or different ways of thinking or strategies that have worked for other potential models that have achieved what you desire (this does not include magazines and newspapers – those are meant to get the scarce resource of your attention, not inform or lift you to new heights).

Demming, in many ways responsible for Japan’s economic turnaround after the war, coined the mindset of always looking to do and create the ‘Highest and Best’. With a focus on always finding an even better way, always testing, always learning to make it even better – quality instead of quantity, you CAN and WILL get to a better place in any and every area of your life.

To help with perspective:

Imagine you have 3 balls (mind out of the gutter please!) – a basketball, a soccer ball and a ping-pong ball.  Each one represents one area of where you spend the majority of your time and focus in either 1) Relationship, 2) Work, or 3) Self.  According to the SIZE of the ball, label each ball with one of  these 3 areas depending on where you spend the majority of your time /focus.

WHERE DO YOU SPEND THE MAJORITY OF YOUR TIME / FOCUS?  Is it at work? On yourself?  On your relationship?  Where do you spend the LEAST amount of time/focus?

Can you see or does it click or can you feel why you might be struggling in some area of your life?

If the ping-pong ball represents someone’s relationship, do you thing there might be some issues within that relationship? What if your partner’s relationship was a basketball while yours was a ping-pong ball?  If your basketball represents Relationship and the ping-pong ball is Work – would you expect that type of person is struggling financially?

So, how would you label your balls? Which is the basketball, soccer ball and ping-pong balls! And, maybe more important, where could you make a shift in those labels that could change EVERYTHING?

If your basketball is Self, and you changed it to Work – do you think your financial world might have the capability of becoming a new kind of awesome?  Or, if you made it Relationship, would you be able to completely convert that 1 or 2 Dimentional stagnant relationship with your lover and create a 3 Dimentional piece of artwork of passion, intimacy, euphoria and ecstasy in its place?  (1 Dimentional is when you come to Get not give, 2 Dimentional is where you make it 50-50, ‘you do your part, I’ll do mine’ generally with little passion, 3D is where their needs are your needs and it lights you up to light them up, where there’s intimate passion and fun, where you’re courageous enough to give 100% and bring that out in your partner as well).

Next time you play with a ball or play basketball, soccer, ping-pong or any other sport with a ball like tennis, bowling, cricket, baseball or whatever – maybe you will want to ask yourself, ‘in which area do I spend the majority of my time/focus? Which area do I spend the least? If I make a change immediately, how could this make everything better?

I know for me personally, these techniques have changed the course of my life and destiny immensely.  When I realized the time I was spending on relationships, my relationship went from pretty good to freakin’ awesome! When I spend the time expanding my mind and understanding, the world shifts to bring me closer to the path leading to my chosen destiny.

I wish you understanding and passion on your way to your destiny.

I love you,  I’m Sorry,  Please forgive me,  Thank you.

Alex Beyer, Esq.

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com

Don’t Be Emotionally Constipated!

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Don’t be Emotionally Constipated! All to often I see people who are trying to look or act ‘proper’, like how they think society says they should be… and in doing so they purposely try to stop feeling.  They don’t get too excited,  too happy, too angry and heaven forbid you’re a man and you cry! – instead they turn themselves into this ‘bleh’ of non- emotion.  Almost like a robot.

The quality of your life is the quality of your emotions. Let yourself feel. Let yourself jump for joy.  Let yourself have passion for your beliefs.  Let your love show on the outside too. Even when it’s the right time,  let your tears flow.   Be the real you.  Not the contrived one you’ve learned to put on a show with.

How? Practice. Do things a little out of your comfort zone. Be okay to be a little embarrassed. Realize that people’s opinions don’t matter enough for you to change the real you.

Can you remember a time when you were a fun crazy passionate person? That person is still in there. What’s the name of the Real You? Won’t you bring them out to play? How did you move then? What did you say to yourself? What was life about in that moment?

Alex Beyer

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com

Is what you’re telling yourself really True? How the lies you’ve told yourself over your lifetime keep you from the wealth of life.

Posted on by Alex Beyer, Esquire

Is what you’ve been telling yourself about life, about your family, about your enemy, about why you haven’t achieved what you really want yet really true?  Really?

Is it possible that you haven’t tried EVERY possible solution?  It it possible that you didn’t try every diet?  Is it possible that you haven’t read all the books on the subject to figure out a different way?  It it possible that you didn’t attend all of the seminars that might hold the key to unlocking your future?  Is it possible that if you REALLY wanted to you could spend more time with your loved ones and less time at work?

One of my favorite questions that I ask my lover and kids (which sometimes they don’t want to hear!) is, “If I put a gun to your head and said, I’m going to blow your brains out if you don’t find a way…, could you find one?”

I hear the excuses ALL THE FREAKIN’ TIME that “I can’t because… [name your story].”  Because “I’m too old,” “I’m too young”, “I’m to fat,” “I’m to thin,” “I don’t have the time,” “I don’t have the money,” “My partner/spouse won’t let me,” “You don’t know what they did to me!”  If there’s an opportunity, I love to ask them, “Is that really true.”  Unfortunately most of the time it doesn’t seem appropriate or some people may not be ready for a real discussion.

But, if you’re reading this, then you’re probably willing to ask yourself the question.

“Is it really true” what you’ve been telling yourself about why you haven’t taken action to bring you your destiny, starting today?  You may have had awful things happen to you.  I get it.  Those facts are true, but the story that you’ve been telling yourself about why that has stopped you from having/being/getting what you want, that’s the part that is NOT a fact and has become the fiction that you’ve hypnotized yourself into believing by telling it over and over and over again.  That story has gives you the excuse of why you have not achieved/done/become/experienced what you truly want.  The story gives us a ‘good reason’ why you haven’t had to face your real fear – that if you took action and didn’t achieve your results, people might not think you’re enough and if you’re not enough then you wouldn’t be loved.

Love (the desire of receiving) is the true need and desire that everyone has deep down.  Acceptance, appreciation, recognition and a belief that we’re enough is one of the primary drivers of the human psyche.  Why do bullies bully people?  Because they want significance as a poor replacement for love that they’re not getting elsewhere.  Why are people depressed (other than being selfish and thinking only of themselves and not others)?  Absent a physical bodily malfunction it’s because they want to feel loved and are able to at least get attention through the vehicle of depression.

Getting back to the Question to get past this belief, this story of why you can’t, why you haven’t, why it’s impossible, why you’re overweight, why you’re unhappy, why you’re suffering – ask yourself:

Q1: IS THIS REALLY TRUE?  Really?  Is there ANY other possibility however slight?

Then ask:

Q2: How would you feel if you never had this thought?  How excited, joyful and relieved would you feel if this belief or thought never existed in you?

If you never ever ever felt that “I’m not good enough,” “I’m this way because of him/her or that experience.”  If you never felt “I don’t have the time,” “I don’t have the money,” “I can’t make it work.”

How would that feel?

Then ask:

Q3: Why is that belief/thought or unempowering story complete and utter B.S.?  Why is it nothing more than something that belongs in the gutter with all the other trash we thow away?

Finally ask:

Q4: Why is the Opposite of what you used to believe the actual truth?

Why do you actually have enough money or resources or could find a way to make things happen?  How do you know there has to be a way to get your body fit and that somewhere there is a model to follow that is not out there just to rip you off?  How do you know that you are good enough as you are today without anybody else’s approval?  How do you know that you have the same time as everyone else in the world and could model someone to do the thing that you want if you were willing to do instead of talk?

Write down 3 reasons why you KNOW that the opposite of what you used to believe is true.

Do this now while you’re in state.  Don’t wait until later or tomorrow or after the meeting.  Do it now.  Ask yourself the question, take the time.

If that belief/story/thought/blame that you had really was Bull$#^@, and you just didn’t take the time to notice it – what could your life really be?  What could you feel, experience, do and accomplish?  How will you let your story’s next Act, Inning or 2nd half show?

Your time is now.  The best time to have begun was 10 years ago.  The 2nd best time is NOW, today, in the present moment.

God bless you.

Alex Beyer

http://www.StateStoryStrategy.com